S8, Ep 4 Solo Parenting Two Kids After 40, With SMBC Randi Maves
Solo parenting one child is a big job. Add a second baby to the mix, and do it all without a co-parent, and everything shifts.
In this episode, I’m joined by Randi Maves, a solo mom by choice to two boys, four years apart. Randi wouldn’t trade this life for anything, but she’s honest about how intense it can be juggling two different stages of parenting on her own.
From navigating daycare drop-offs and picky eaters to handling preschooler meltdowns while sleep-training a newborn, Randi gets honest about what the daily juggle really looks like. She talks about the tools and support systems that are saving her sanity right now, including her decision to hire an au pair, and the emotional process of adjusting to life as a solo mom of two.
We’re also diving into Randi’s fertility journey with IVF at 40+, including the heartbreak of getting no viable embryos, the decision to transfer her one mosaic embryo, and the deep trust it took to move forward.
If you’re thinking about having a second child as an SMBC, already in the thick of solo motherhood, or just wondering what this path can look like, Randi’s story is a beautiful mix of honesty, resilience, and real-life logistics.
In this episode, we talk about:
How her mom’s diagnosis sparked her decision to become a mom
What it was like to move across the country with a baby in tow
What shifted her perspective on having a second child solo
The highs and lows of IVF as a single woman in her 40s
What it’s really like to solo parent two kids in different phases of life
Her approach to building a support team, including daycare and live-in help
The emotional weight of parenting without a partner, and why acknowledgment matters
Her mindset around letting “future Randi” handle “future problems”
